31 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 13

Today is Day 13 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

What do you think of your smile?

I don't really like my smile much, mainly because I hate my teeth, which are really uneven. I nearly always try to smile with my mouth closed for photos. It does feel good to smile though, so I do it often and strangely it's one of the features about me that my husband likes the best. Always goes to show that others will find the good in the things you hate about yourself.


30 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 12

Today is Day 10 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

Why are you the way you are?

I think a lot of who I am comes from the way I have been brought up as this is where I get my values from and these are very important to me. I've inherited quite a balanced mix of personality traits from each of my parents (all the best ones of course) and I've also been lucky enough to have a large but close-knit extended family. I was always very close to my grandparents and learned a lot from them as well as my parents. I was brought up to be down-to-earth, kind to others, loving, curious and open-minded. Being a 'first-born' child has probably also given me quite a maternal nature and a sense of responsibility, as well as a degree of bossiness!

29 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 11

Today is Day 11 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

Is your self-talk negative or positive? If it is negative what are some more positive ways to talk to yourself?

My self-talk is sometimes negative, especially regarding my appearance. I will sometimes look in the mirror and think to myself that I'm ugly or fat and it instantly puts me in a bad mood. Lately I've had quite a lot of success in combating this. I try to catch myself thinking negative thoughts and change them into positives. For example, when I look in the mirror I try not to think 'fat', 'wide' or 'chunky' but instead tell myself that I have beautiful, sexy curves which my husband loves.

Top Ten Tuesday: Authors I Own the Most Books From

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Today is Top Ten Tuesday, a meme hosted by The Broke and the Bookish!  Every week they post a new top ten list and everyone can join in and share their own picks. If you'd like to take part, hop on over to the blog and sign up with the linky. If you don't have a blog, feel free to post your answers in the comments.

This week's topic is: Authors I Own the Most Books From.

I tend to read a lot more books than I own, as I borrow from friends or the library or sell what I don't think I'll read again. I also read a lot of stand-alone novels rather than series, and once I'm done I often move on to something completely different, so I don't have a huge collection of books from the same author.

28 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 10

Today is Day 10 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

Why are you the way you are?

I think a lot of who I am comes from the way I have been brought up as this is where I get my values from and these are very important to me. I've inherited quite a balanced mix of personality traits from each of my parents (all the best ones of course) and I've also been lucky enough to have a large but close-knit extended family. I was always very close to my grandparents and learned a lot from them as well as my parents. I was brought up to be down-to-earth, kind to others, loving, curious and open-minded. Being a 'first-born' child has probably also given me quite a maternal nature and a sense of responsibility, as well as a degree of bossiness!

27 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 9

Today is Day 9 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

Do you have genuine respect for yourself and who you are as an individual? If not how can you change that?

Happily, I think I've got to the stage where I do genuinely respect myself for the person I've become. I try not to regret mistakes I've made in the past and instead learn from them. I've worked hard to get where I am and have tried to improve myself in various ways-by learning new skills, taking risks and investing a lot of time and energy in the things that matter to me. I still have some issues with myself, as I'm sure everyone does, but overall I'm pretty happy with who I am right now.

Do you respect yourself? 


Cover Characteristic (21) Pirates

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Today I'm joining in with the Cover Characteristic meme hosted by Sugar and Snark. Every week the author chooses a theme and you have to pick five of your favourite book covers featuring that object.

Today's cover characteristic is Pirates.

26 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 8

Today is Day 8 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

The last time you smiled when someone complimented you. What was the compliment and why did you smile?

This week a couple of people at my new work commented on how quickly I had done certain tasks and that they were impressed that I just got on with things without moaning and got it done. This made me smile because my new job has been challenging for me at times and I've put a lot of effort into it so it's really nice for them to notice and appreciate that. It also made me proud of myself for being someone who just gets stuck in and doesn't grumble and I was pleased that this approach was making a good impression. This simple comment about my work-ethic meant more to me than a compliment about my appearance would as it reflects my personality and something I've worked hard at rather than something I was born with or paid for.



What was the last compliment you received?

25 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 7

Today is Day 7 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

Do you think you care too much what others think? If so how can you change that?

At times I do care a lot about what others think of me. I have a massive guilt-complex, and always worry that I've not done enough to help people or make them happy. For example, sometimes I'll spend a lot more on a birthday present than I can actually afford and then still worry that it won't be good enough and they'll think that I don't care about them. I also worry a lot about my appearance and can be paranoid that people are thinking I'm fat and ugly. I dwell on embarrassing incidents like tripping over and saying the wrong thing and cringe thinking about how others must perceive me.



24 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 6

Today is Day 6 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

What are some obstacles that are preventing you from accomplishing your goals? How will you overcome them?

There are three main obstacles that are holding me back from completing my goals at the moment:

1) Self-doubt-I talked about this more on Day 3. Lack of confidence is holding me back from completing my novel and also from learning to drive. I'm currently trying to work on building my confidence up by concentrating on my strengths and avoiding 'negative self-talk'. I do have a habit of putting myself down and worrying about things too much and I'm trying to stop that in its tracks and replace it with empowering thoughts. I'm also trying to push out of my comfort zone a lot more. I started going to Zumba last year, I took on a huge website design project, I dance in a yearly show and this year I took the plunge and accepted a new job offer. Hopefully taking risks more often will prove to myself that I can do anything I put my mind to.

23 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 5

Today is Day 5 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

What's your proudest accomplishment?

My proudest accomplishment was probably getting my 1st Class Honours degree in Literature and Philosophy. It was a tough journey as although I'd always wanted to go on to higher education I found it hard to be away from home. I'd been brought up in the middle of nowhere amongst miles of open fields and I hadn't travelled much, so my world up until 18 was fairly small. I also came from a close-knit family and hadn't really spend any time away from them.

22 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 4

Today is Day 4 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

What do you do to feel better when you’re having a bad day?

Luckily there are lots of ways to cheer myself up if I'm having a bad day. 

1) Hug my husband and cat-this always make me feel better. Actually, it's proven that hugging can reduce stress and anxiety as it causes you to release the hormone oxytocin, which gives you a physical boost.  

2) Get some fresh air-sunshine and a nice breeze can make me feel better and less stressed. I like to get out and have a quiet walk through some trees to clear my head.

3) Eat something naughty-okay, so this might have a few negative effects long term (weight gain, guilt, associating food with comfort etc.) but sometimes I just need a quick fix. I've found that I am a lot crankier when I haven't eaten for a while, and sometimes when I stop to have a nice snack I feel instantly better and wonder what I was groaning about. My comfort food of choice is chocolate and if I eat the dark kind I feel less guilty as it contains antioxidants and flavonoids which may help to lower blood pressure and balance certain hormones in the body. Plus it tastes amazing!

4) Read a good book-I often read to cheer myself up after a long and tiring day. Either I'm transported to an amazing fantasy world (pure escapism) or a dystopian world that makes me feel grateful for what I've got-"It could be worse-I could be in the Hunger Games!"

5) Watch an uplifting DVD-when I'm down I put on happy, feel-good DVDs like Disney movies or musicals. My favourites are Singin' In the Rain and The Sound of Music, which both never fail to make me smile. Forest Gump is also a good bet or a comedy DVD.

6) Play my 'Cheer Up' playlist




7) Visit Pinterest-there are so many inspiring and uplifting quotes on there, as well as cute pictures of cats! Guaranteed to put me in a good mood.

Follow Tizzy Potts's board Mind over Matter on Pinterest.



8) Pamper myself-I like to have a nice hot bath or shower and go through my whole pampering ritual-body scrub, scented body wash, hair mask, face mask, body lotion/oil, nail polish, etc. Having a little 'me' time to take care of myself makes me feel a little more human.

9) Call my mum-you're never too old to need your mum when you're feeling down. If there's something on my mind I like to call her for a chat and she listens to my moaning and groaning without judging and always makes me feel better about things.

10) Smile-I read somewhere that smiling makes you feel better and I think it's probably true. Sometimes when I've had a bad day I'll pull a silly face in front of the mirror and then laugh at myself.



Top Ten Tuesday: Characters I Would Want With Me On A Deserted Island

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Today is Top Ten Tuesday, a meme hosted by The Broke and the Bookish!  Every week they post a new top ten list and everyone can join in and share their own picks. If you'd like to take part, hop on over to the blog and sign up with the linky. If you don't have a blog, feel free to post your answers in the comments.

This week's topic is: Characters I Would Want With Me On A Deserted Island.

21 Jul 2014

Self Esteem Challenge: Day 3

Today is Day 3 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

What is one fear or goal that you would like to conquer?

What instantly sprang to mind was a goal and a fear that are very closely related: my goal to complete my novel and my fear of failure. For as long as I can remember I've wanted to be a writer. My greatest personal desire is to finish a novel and get it published and I would be so happy and proud of myself if I managed to achieve it. It's a long road to publication, but I know that the important thing right now is to write, write, write!

20 Jul 2014

Self-Esteem Challenge: Day 2

Today is Day 2 of the Self-Esteem Challenge, originally from Better than Dark Chocolate. It's a series of questions and prompts to get you thinking about your good qualities and things that make you happy or proud. See my introductory post for more info.

A physical feature you like

I'm normally very critical of my physical features, so this was a tough one. It may be an odd choice, but I'm going to say my hips. I have quite wide hips and a pear-shaped figure, which I used to hate. But recently I've become quite fond of my hips and realised that they have a few advantages:

1) I can use them to balance heavy objects on when I need to carry something
2) They give me a curvier looking figure and make my waist look smaller in comparison!
3) They will apparently make childbirth a little easier (yay!)
4) They make me look pretty darn hot when doing Zumba, belly dancing or salsa. Eat your heart out, Shakira.